Monday, June 30, 2008

A husband needs a wife that is complasaint not complaining

So I started reading a book called "What a Husband needs from his Wife." It has actually been pretty good. I have been able to relate to the author a lot, although I have found myself not wanting to practice some of the things I have learned. That's bad, I know.

In the evenings, I like to get the kids to bed then go take a bath and read. As I said, I have started reading a new book. The books I typically like to read are Christian Romance novels (usually by Lori Wick - she's an excellent author). I had actually gone to Lifeway Christian Bookstore a few weeks ago in search of her newest book in the latest series, but they did not have it. My husband and I have been having (typical) marriage "issues/spats," and this book had caught my eye. I didn't like the constant power struggles and issues that we had been having, but I also knew that they stemmed from us not being in church regularly, and me not being as encouraging as I should be. So, I decided that I would purchase this book instead, I need all the help I can get.

Like I said, I have found some very good things in this book, but I have found myself not wanting to put them in practice. One day, after reading the book, I realized that I could no longer depend on anyone else for my happiness. If I am constantly looking to my husband for happiness, then I will be constantly disappointed. Now, don't get me wrong, I am not saying that my husband does not make me happy, because he very much so does, but there will always be things that he un-intentionally does that could upset me. The same goes for me to. I am by no means a perfect wife. But when you look to someone else (other than God) to find happiness, you will always end up unhappy.

So, if you have read my blog from yesterday, you already know that I was disappointed in our church experience. So, after I put the kids to bed, I went to take my bath and read my book. I finished the last section I was reading the night before and started on a new one.......A husband needs a wife that is complacent, not complaining....O.k. so I don't think that is word for word what she titled it, but it was very close. I read the section on that (only a paragraph), and put the book down. It was really what I needed to read, but again, I didn't want to. I had to ask for forgiveness because I was not happy with what happened at church yesterday, and my husband knew it. Webster defines complaisant as "marked by an inclination to please or oblige." I need to be pleased with everything that God has given me, not complain about it. She went on to say that when we complain about everything, we make our husbands feel like the weight of the world has been put on their shoulders. They are supposed to be the head and support of the family, but how can they not feel burdened when the one person they want to be happy is not? I need to be happy with everything God has given me. I act as a bad testimony when all I do is complain and wish things were differently.

So, I hope you have learned something. If you had not read this book, read it. I am only 1/2 way through, but it really is helping me to see how selfish I have been. I can always be concerned about me and myself. If I worry more about what my family, husband, and children need, then God will make sure he is taking care of me.............

Sunday, June 29, 2008


O.k. so Sundays are supposed to be a day of worship and rest. My husband and I have not been very faithful to church after we got pregnant with my daughter. We have gone off and on, but not on a regular basis, partly because we are from different "backgrounds." We have made the decision to start going regularly on Sundays and have started the journey to find a church we both like and can get involved in. So, the first Sunday I found myself, with my 2 kids and my dad, going to try the first church by ourselves. My husband plays football on Sundays, and the game was at the 11:00 hour when I wanted to go to church. We were going to attend at 6:00pm, but the church was not having a service that night (it was Father's Day). So, the next Sunday we went at 6:00 together as a family (because again he had a game). Although I want to go to church together as a family on Sunday MORNINGS, I have agreed to be flexible with him and his schedule and go later if we need to.

I was a bit excited yesterday when my husband told me that they had cancelled the football games for the next two Sundays. I was looking forward to being able to go to church in the morning with all of my family. So, we tried a different church, one I thought that we might both enjoy. When we got there, the people were friendly, the nursery workers welcomed us and helped us get the kids in their proper places. I felt very comfortable with the security of the childcare (this is VERY important to me).

So, as the church service started, the band started to play. Let me go back a little bit and tell you that my husband and I are both more on the "Traditional" side than the "Contemporary" side. I like some of the Contemporary Music, but we don't like to feel like we are at a rock concert when we go to church. For some people, this works, but it's not something we prefer. Which is how I felt when the church service started. My husband and I both looked at each other and smiled.

The sermon was good. He preached on Joy. The majority of what he had to say, I agreed with. There was something he said about the "circumstances" surrounding the story in the Bible that I had never heard before. I am not going to say that it was not true; I need to research it. I have been in church since I was born, and even went to Bible College, but I have never heard those premises before. Again, I will need to research it. So, I will not say that he is wrong, but it makes me wonder. I am not one that just listens to what someone says and takes it as the truth. I like to research it and make sure that it is the truth.

So, as another week passes, we still do not have a place that we will call our church "home." There are a few other places I would like to take him and try, so I pray that God will open his heart to that.......

Saturday, June 28, 2008

My first blog

O.k., so I have never done this before, but I am excited. An old friend of mine does this. I started reading hers and I thought, "I want one." Her's are very good, even make me laugh, mine probably won't be AS good, but that's o.k. She said she likes to write in here because it is one of her greatest stress-relievers.....hmmm....sounds nice. I have many of stresses, maybe this could work.

So a little about the writer......My name is Stacie, I am a wife and a mother of 2! They are the 2 most adorable children you will ever see (o.k. so I'm bias). One may think, so how cute can a little rugrat that drools and spits up all the time and is covered in 1/2 eaten slobbery, mushy cherios be? (That is what my son looks like right now) Well, let me tell ya.....THE CUTEST EVER!!!

My children are the MAJORITY of my life. I do work full-time as a designer for a cabinet shop, which I love. The kids go to school close by, it's nice to have them so close. My husband works for a bank, and he does a great job. Most of our evenings and free time are spent at home with the kids, or my husband enjoys his sports playing too. We go occassionally, but most of the time it's too late for the kids.

Im 25, and yes, I don't feel old enough to have 2 kids. I am finding a lot of people my age are having kids early. My thought is that by the time I am 40, they will be in college, then I still have some time to enjoy life right?? O.k. so maybe not, but if I could have 100 more, I would.

I love babies. Who doesn't? It's just crazy to not love babies! Oh, and we also have a cat. She doesn't get as much attention as she did before the kids. Poor kitty...........

See, I told you this was not going to be very interesting. Maybe they will get better, but no promises.....

Thanks for stopping by............